During this time of stress and upheaval, GJB Health Services is here for you. We see a significant increase in depression and anxiety among folks who have never struggled or suffered with mood disorders in the past. For the significant percentage of people who have had bouts of anxiety and/or depression in the past, this year has been particularly difficult.
GJB wishes to distribute helpful resources to the community in response to the pandemic. New material will be published from GJB providers and staff periodically.
December 28, 2020
The Gottman Relationship Blog
Gifts from the Heart. A research-based approach to relationships via The Gottman Institute’s Blog. The blog offers education on ways to make relationships last, review answered questions about relationships from Certified Gottman Therapists, how to have a Mindful Marriage, and so much more.
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December 18, 2020
It’s about the Small Things in Relationships
Small Things Often: How to build a positive, lasting relationship. Explore these approaches to improve partings, reunions, show of appreciation and affection, as well as date nights, and more!
Small Things Often Podcast
Better your Relationship in 60 Seconds or Less
The Marriage Minute: This FREE Gottman emailed Newsletter provides resources, articles, tools, videos, etc., on ways to deepen your friendship and enhance your marriage.
November 4, 2020
Positive Statements to Help Cultivate Attitudes of Acceptance
Allow time to pass during a period of an emotional overload. It can be helpful to repeat a single statement verbally or internally, during the first minute or two during feelings of stress, anxiety, or panic. If one statement gets tiresome or seems to stop working, try another.
- “This feeling isn’t comfortable or pleasant, but I can accept it.”
- “I can be anxious and still deal with this situation.”
- “I can handle these symptoms or sensations.”
- “This isn’t an emergency. It’s okay to think slowly about what I need to do.”
- “This isn’t the worst thing that could happen.”
- “I’m going to go with this and wait for my anxiety to decrease.”
- “I’ll just let my body do its thing. This will pass.”
- “I’ll ride this through – I don’t need to let this get me.”
- “I deserve to feel okay right now.”
- “I can take all the time I need in order to let go and relax.”
- “There’s no need to push myself. I can take as small a step forward as I choose.”
- “I’ve survived this before and I’ll survive this time too.”
- “I can do my coping strategies and allow this to pass.”
- “This anxiety won’t hurt me – even if it doesn’t feel good.”
- “This is just anxiety – I’m not going to let it get to me.”
- “Nothing serious is going to happen to me.”
- “Fighting and resisting isn’t going to help – so I’ll just let it pass.”
- “These are thoughts – not reality.”
- “I don’t need these thoughts – I can choose to think differently.”
- “This isn’t dangerous.”
- “So what.”
- “Don’t worry – be happy.” (Use this to inject an element of humor)
- “This isn’t fun, but I won’t run.”